What do you do about comments on your blog that come from complete strangers and might be offensive, but maybe you want to give the author the benefit of the doubt? Plus, your kinda dying to know how/why this person is looking at your blog in the first place, checking out a post that’s six-plus months old. Finally, how do you write a post like this without displaying your own passive aggression?
Shanamadele’s Coffee Break
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shanamadele wrote @
Yep. After I wrote about this, I realized that accepting the comment was the worst possible outcome. I was upfront about the moderation. Comments like the one I rejected illustrate why I chose to set up the commenting approval that way in the first place.
Ridwan wrote @
I had an open comment policy until abusive comments rolled in … really racist ones too.
So, comment moderation has made it a whole lot better.
I hate the anonymous comments but not all are hostile.
By and large the regular readers will smack down on hostile comments that I choose to publish.
But I hear you on the stress/angst that go with comments that are … ummm unkind.
I am still working on getting me skin to be tougher.
That said, nice blog sister. I trust you and M. are well.
Peace and struggle,
Ridwan
ps. The other day someone I respect told me that my blog may be one of the reasons I can’t find a real academic job. I can’t tell you how that pissed me off … I mean I chose to have my real name and mug out there because I belive the crap I write … ;0)
shanamadele wrote @
Hey, Ridwan, my brother! You write a much braver blog than I. I’ve seen some of the comments you allow through — I can only imagine the ones you block. Your skin looks plenty tough to me, but I’m not living inside it.
Anyway, glad you followed me here and spoke up. Hope you will keep saying things here.
feygele wrote @
Just wanted to say hi… I’m not sure if we know each other, but you had friended my LJ and I see that I’m on your blogroll here.
As for comments, I tend to allow them if mildly offensive, but then I follow up with a comment on my own – challenging the offensive, questionable parts of the original comment. If outright disrespectful then I delete them.
shanamadele wrote @
Nice of you to drop in. I think I saw something you crossposted to Jewschool, and I wanted to see more.
Your post about moving your own blog, especially because of the way lj was treating queer communities, was a factor in my deciding to move. So, thanks!
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I am reminded of advice I have received many a time: Be leery of feeding the trolls. Ok, maybe they aren’t trolls, and I get the curiosity piece, but is it worth your emotional energy? Only you can say….